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Jason and Kimberly posted a condolence
Monday, July 30, 2018
Kathy
We were so sorry to hear of Tony's passing. Please accept our condolences to you and your family.
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Marian Mahoney Acheson posted a condolence
Sunday, July 29, 2018
Francine:
I was your neighbor at 77 So. Mt Avenue from 5/63 until 7/1971. I remember your Mom and Dad well. My oldest brother Michael, Brian, myself and baby sister Sandy lived next door. So sad to hear of Anthony's death. I remember him well, along with you. I am a (kidney) cancer survivor, and know what a dreadful toll cancer takes on families. As the last member of your nuclear family, I can only picture your sorrow. God Bless you, and know that you are in my prayers, and you will always be a "baby girl " in my memories.
Love,
Marian Mahoney Acheson
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Lisa (Stephens) Hart posted a condolence
Friday, July 27, 2018
Dear Francine,
Tony was such a special person, he was a shining star of our youth group. No words can express how I felt about him, he was very dear to me,despite the fact that we never really had more than a friendship. I remember you as Tony's "little sister" but you were wonderful and Tony was delighted with you despite his pretense otherwise.
Best to you, I'm so sorry for your loss, Tony was an amazing guy.
Lisa Stephens (now Hart).
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Chrissy margosiak posted a condolence
Friday, July 27, 2018
Sorry for your loss Kathy, Tony was such a fun and great guy. Condolences to you and your family.
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David Eggleston posted a condolence
Friday, July 27, 2018
Tony and I met in 1969, and I have so many memories of our times together that I could fill a book. The main thing about Tony was that he loved to laugh; he loved crazy movies, absurdist humor, biting satire, and anything that spotlighted the ridiculousness of the world around us. And music - he loved music, and if anything can be said of his taste in music, it would be that it was eclectic, and you couldn't always tell where it would lead him. Sometimes he would buy an album just because it looked interesting, and on more than one occasion he would initially dislike what he heard, but after a few re-listenings, he would grow to love the music, sometimes to the point that he would buy the rest of the artist's recordings. His tastes ran all the way from The Ramones to Gentle Giant to Debussy to Pink Floyd to Keith Jarret to James Brown (in later years) - and Frank Zappa. Zappa is where his love of absurdity and music came together beautifully; I remember we were listening to something by The Mothers that contained a demented parody of a Viennese waltz... we laughed so hard that neither of us could catch our breath.
Getting together on Sundays for band rehearsals in Tony's garage was always fun. Intergalactic Goat, Hyacinth, Tube Steak, and countless other band names, all from the mind of Tony, would rattle the neighborhood for a couple of hours each week; playing with meager equipment, using pool cues for microphone stands and struggling our way through Grand Funk and Alice Cooper songs... those were good times. Even one of the neighbors confessed to missing us when we finally gave it up, which we found amazing.
On a few occasions, we walked to Korvettes in West Orange, or to a record shop in Upper Montclair, to get our hands on some new release. We would talk about stuff, sometimes how life didn't seem to be very fair to guys like us, our personal insecurities, and what we hoped to get out of life. Over the years, Tony and I reconnected many times, always over music and laughter. I could go on and on, but I'll just end with this - Tony loved life, he loved Kathleen, he loved his family, his friends, his cats, nature, music, art, literature... the only thing I think he really hated was driving on Bloomfield Avenue.
Rest in peace, my good friend; I'm really going to miss you. Kathleen, Francine and your family, and all of Tony's other friends, my heartfelt
condolences for your loss. We carry him with us in our continued journey through life; he's not far from us.
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Friday, July 27, 2018
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Tony at our wedding in 1994
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Russell K. Proscia lit a candle
Friday, July 27, 2018
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Russell K. Proscia posted a condolence
Friday, July 27, 2018
My deepest condolences to the family & friends. I remember Anthony from High School. Anthony was a year ahead of me. I was very friendly with Francine. Francine was the outstanding assistant for a dentist in Cedar Grove many years ago. I am very sorry for this great loss.
Russell K. Proscia
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garry zettersten posted a condolence
Friday, July 27, 2018
We were at South End together. I recall he was interested in film, viewing and making, before we knew what it was. I recall trying to make films with him in elementary school. I recall his critiques of special effects of Japanese Monster movies. I recall "Moon's" drumming. Fond memories all.
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Kay McClain posted a condolence
Friday, July 27, 2018
I remember Tony, from being one of the Pacifico wedding guests, when he and Kathy were married. I recall the wedding toast offered at their wedding dinner being a statement of best wishes and the toastmaster saying he never saw two people more meant for eachother, well, guess he had foresight, 37 years worth. I recall Tony playing the drums at the wedding reception and his father-in-law, Edward Coleman, standing in front of him, keeping beat and looking appreciative of his new son-in-law's talent. It was a great day as I now recall.
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Friday, July 27, 2018
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Peter Dominski posted a condolence
Friday, July 27, 2018
Tony Pacifico…The Passing of a Kindred Spirit
I was saddened to hear of the passing of a classmate from high school yesterday, his name was Tony Pacifico. I remember Tony as a quiet, gentle soul with an outrageous sense of humor when you got to know him. He had great artistic talent, when you could get him to share it with you.
I first got to know Tony early in high school, when neither of us was in the Alpha Male group. During freshman and sophomore years we were in the same gym classes together, normally not a memorable experience during those awkward years. But Tony and I got through those painful times by pairing our sense of humor together. The gym teachers, usually the football coaches, would pair off the class for a touch football game. The Alpha male football players would be assigned to separate the class into opposing teams. The popular and athletically gifted boys would of course be chosen first, and the slight, skinny, quiet boys would be chosen last.
Is there any more humiliating way to start off high school than this practice? Were the coaches trying to debase our fragile spirits by basing our self-worth based on physical prowess?
Tony and I always seemed to be among the last to be chosen. We gravitated to each other because of the absurdity of the situation, and our sense of humor. Here someone else was trying to assign value to us based on their notions of physical ability. Many times we faced each other on opposite side of the line of scrimmage, supposedly to try and prevent the other from rushing the quarterback. Now we both quickly realized that neither of us had any intention of rushing the quarterback, or getting hurt in any way for the major honor of the gym class. So we just stood there making believe that we were doing something, and verbally threatening to do something to appease anyone who happened to be listening or caring. So we would shout very loudly at each other, “Nobody gets by me!” At which point we would do nothing but stand there and crack up!
What is the best that you can say about high school, growing up, and all other awkward situations that life serves up; keep your sense of humor always, find the absurdity in every situation and laugh at it, and hang in there, no matter what!
I have no idea if Tony faced the rest of his life with that wry sense of humor that I loved in high school. I would like to think that he did even up to the end.
Farewell my friend!
Go gently into the night!
I look forward to seeing you on the other side of that that line which one day will unite us all again!
You went too soon!
When we mourn for you, surely we also mourn for ourselves, as one day we will also cross that great divide.
Until then, May the Lord Bless you and keep you!
See you then, Tony P!
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Paula Petillo posted a condolence
Friday, July 27, 2018
My first memory of Tony is the summer of 1970. He pulled into our driveway in his VW Beetle, which was packed full with drums and various band equipment. His band played at my 8th grade graduation party that night and it was epic! We became fast friends, and over the next few years I came to understand what a gifted musician, artist, writer and all around hilarious/witty guy he was. Many hours of talking on the telephone, antics in high school, crazy adventures at concerts, and photography excursions to interesting New Jersey nature spots. The best of times were had with one of the most humble, thoughtful and gentle friends I've ever had the privilege to know. My thanks to you Tony, for sharing your amazing spirit with me and everyone who knew you. May God rest your sweet soul and bring comfort to Kathleen and all of your loved ones. Until we meet again...Paula
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Edward McClain posted a condolence
Friday, July 27, 2018
My condolences to my cousin Kathy and to Tony’s family, we all share in your grief, losing a loved one is a very difficult time! God bless you all, your in my prayers!
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Thursday, July 26, 2018
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